Ask the experts: How can I develop a more positive mindset?

After the year we’ve had, it’s understandable that positivity isn’t flowing as freely as it perhaps once was. With Christmas coming up and ambiguity massing potential proposes, some of us are feeling low-spirited. While a positive mindset won’t solve all your problems, there are styles we can pick ourselves up and feel right about what’s to come.

Here, hypnotherapist Howard Cooper shares his advice with us on developing a more positive mindset, being present and letting disappear of the need for everything to be perfect.

I know Christmas won’t be the same this year and it’s really getting me down, how can I “lets get going” of my possibilities and enjoy the holiday season?

Back in November 2019 how did you feel about 2020? Positive, right? Would like to have a fresh New Year. What did that positive feeling actually tell you? Did it actually tell you anything about how 2020 was actually going to pan out? No! Perhaps those feelings that’ Christmas will be a let down’ aren’t too solely accurate.

Imagining your ideal holiday date, focusing on the past and what you adoration most about it before, and then ruminating over all the reasons it can’t be like that this year, is a sure-fire way to set yourself up for letdown. Virtually, what you’re doing is getting caught up in a mental narrative of what isn’t happening.Instead, try to experience what is going on right now. Live in the moment. What if the best present to give yourself this Christmas is the gift of’ being present’?

I’m conclusion it hard to focus on the positives right now, do you have any practises or suggestions that could help?

Stop and close your eyes and say to yourself,” I have to loosen right now “. Notice how that feels. Now repeat this same exercise but this time say to yourself,” I’d like to relax “. Notice the difference. Which of these experiences helped you to relax more? The second one, right?

The ” “re going to have to”” and the “right now”, likely was almost like a require you were placing on yourself, which usually creates much more tension in the body( uttering it much less likely for relaxation to occur ). So what if you stopped demanding that you must focus on positives right now?

Perhaps letting drive of the need to be positive right now is the thing that’s getting in your highway. Instead explore the relevant recommendations that even if they are” you’d like to feel positive” you don’t have to be.

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I keep get sucked into watching the news and falling into negative conception spiralings, how can I stop?

If my six-year-old son marched into my bedroom and said, “Daddy, Daddy, there’s a villain under my berthed! ”, how reassuring would it be if I is submitted in response to him, “There’s no monster, but whatever you do, don’t look at it”? Clearly telling him not to look at it would actually give the demon more credibility( I’d be giving it like it certainly was a threat ).

Remember, it’s not the news that begins you feeling, but your response to it. Precisely, it’s you imagining worst case scenarios open and then getting too absorbed into those thoughts.

So negative thinking doesn’t have to stop us being fortunate. The difficulty is thinking negatively and then forgetting you’re’ just thinking ‘. Practising musing and paying attention to “thinking” can help you realise that hopes’ in and of themselves’ do not pose any menace to you.

I know I need support with converting my mindset and “ve ever heard” good things about hypnotherapy, can you tell me more about how it helps?

Have you ever had the experience where someone takes a blackboard and cleans their fingernails down it so that it spawns that tone? In fact, even precisely predicting that convict probably gave you a real squirmy feeling inside!

But what was that squirmy response in relation to? It can’t ought to have from a scraping audio as it wasn’t really happening. Instead, all that happened was that, when “youre reading” the decision, at some elevation you imagined the blackboard and fingernails interacting and became so sucked in this thought that you responded to it as though it were real.

That is hypnosis- curiosity shaped so colorful you have a real response to it. Now what if you could learn to control that power, so you could get so good at imagining success, joy and positivity that your organization responds to those instead?

My friend has been feeling very low recently, how can I assists them feel more optimistic?

“Be there for them! ” You may have heard this advice being discussed around but what does that actually mean?

Let them know you are there to support them. Let them know they can speak to you without judgement. Are floating free from platitudes like, “just take some late breaths”, “just think positive”, or “try to distract yourself”. This advice often miscarries and can do them feel like you don’t understand them or its own experience.

You can also suggest that they try professional assist if it goes on for a while( or their feelings become intrusive to the ongoing quality of their life ). And ultimately, there’s a lot of pressure in today’s society to be perfect so why not share your own feelings and vulnerabilities with them so that they know no one is perfect? Lead by your non-perfect example.

Top tips for staying positive:

1. Let lead of asks. Is there a universal regulation that says all people have to be positive? No! However, putting a lot of pressure on yourself to always tested positive, ironically causes more tension. Instead, accept that feelings and thinkings come and go without trying to control them. Practising this mindset will lead to much more internal peace.

2. The past doesn’t equal the future. Often thoughts of past downfalls colour one’s perceptions of how we see our future will reveal. But don’t fall for this illusion. Seeing mental images that we label “the past” as’ momentary constructs in our spirit’ improves liberate you from this trick.

3. Be kind to yourself. You don’t have to clamber Mount Everest, solve’ global peace’ or be productive all the time. Cut yourself some slack and give yourself permission for regular mental downtime.

Howard Cooperis one of Britain’s contributing’ Rapid Change’ experts. A qualified hypnotherapist and Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming( NLP ), he specialises in helping people create rapid switches in their thinking.

This article was originally published in Happiful Magazine( December 2020 ). You can order print prints online, or read the e-magazine for free on the Happiful app.

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