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Kartika Alexandra on Relationship Issues, Attraction, and How to Build Healthy Relationships.
I initially wanted to create a podcast interview to discuss the topic of managing relationships and avoiding conflicts during the Covid1 9 restraint period. But then I decided to make the conversation more generic and talk about what builds relations successful because I believe that the importance of having healthy relationships goes beyond the incarceration time. Being in locked dow merely bring the question back to the surface , now that you have nowhere to hide.
In this conversation, Kartika and I talk about the law of allure, the honeymoon stage, the issues, to choose right partner, how not to raise the past to the present, how to resolve conflicts and how not to keep repeating the same old-fashioned blueprints by choosing/ attract the same type of partners.
Kartika Alexandra grips a degree in psychology and jobs as a hypnotherapist. She is also the owner and founder of Holistic Healing Hypnosis. A top-rated therapy center in Bali, Indonesia providing personalized profound regiman session, face to face and remote. I contacted out to her a bit while ago, when I was going through some challenging meters and perceived her assistances very useful. In a previous podcast, we discussed the power of the subconscious mind, and we dived into the ” behind the scenes” of our outlooks, activities, and actions. That interrogation was one of my most recent favourite ones, and if you haven’t be interested to hear it more, please feel free to go back to episode 23 and tune in.
The topic of relationships is so complex hitherto quite interesting and eliciting. And even if it is included a good deal during the 75 min of these discussions, I feel like we barely scratched the surface. “Thats a lot” of great insights and sees, and I choose these things were thought to us at an early age when we just started dating and before representing our first moves into committed affinities. Perhaps then we would lowered the 50%+ divorce paces and family shatterings.
One of the most common mistakes we all do is diving headfirst into what we believe is ” true love ,” as it was pushed into us by our mothers, culture, media, narrations, and novels–leading us to naively speculate or misjudge love at first sight, soulmates, twin flames, and the happily ever after. When, in fact, and as you will find out in the conversations, things are a little less dreamy than that. Our biochemistry, our force grades, and our subconscious mind play a massive role in interpreting the sends we see through an often baffled lens. We push our issues to our partners; we mimic our childhood simulations into our “families ” and tend to blame rather than take responsibility for our own actions, past events, and baggage.
Healthy rapports bring us the happiest moments in our lives, but at the same time, they can also create the most sordid knowledge. These are really simply opportunities for one to soothe and exhaust their past.
It is our lack of to improve understanding of our own human nature that leads us to poor decision making. As Tony Robbins said, the two sciences to master to create an eventual affinity are Select and Connect. What “Selects” entails is being able to choose the right marriage. So what criteria are you utilizing to select that person? Do you have a list of things that matter? Well, you know what, most of the time, your assortment is going beyond your conscious alternatives. It is what’s in your subconscious that is attracted to the subconscious of the person in front of you. Go back and reread this last one. It’s that same subconscious that is obliging you win that relationship or completely lost, which is why it is essential to get to know yourself. You select a person that accords your core values and your deepest creeds, to either fulfill them and live in harmony or try to compensate them and live in unbalance.
Shape Ties-in MORE HEALTHY
One of the key points that came up over and over during my discourse with Kartika was the importance of doing the employ. It is crucial that you succeed your own wellbeing, daylight to daylight. The more stress you know-how( current event, nutritional uptake, sleep, past ache, blood sugar stages, feeling tribulation, etc) the more you are likely to react from your subconscious because you intentional willpower to achievement lovingly will dwindle in these moments. The subconscious is much most powerful than the awareness thinker. So it was imperative to do your own personal development work, for you to be happy, for your spouse , not to hurt him/ her, and for your kids to build a healthful, desiring genealogy. You must learn and develop and solve your past matters. That said, it doesn’t mean that if you don’t be dealt with, you don’t deserve to be in a healthful liaison. Working on ourselves is a work-in-progress( we all got problems ), and it can be done together with the title spouse, which is even more fun and can bring the depth of the relationship to even higher levels. After all, isn’t all about being with someone who induces us and helps us get the best out of ourselves?
Although this isn’t generally a topic that I’d discuss the matter with my consumers, I securely believe that peak performance–which is what I actually facilitate my coachees with — was not possible if we work on improving all the areas of our life, holistically; which includes being in a healthy rapport. In fact, we are most productive, health person and memory, joyful personally and professionally, when our physical, mental, and feeling state are at operating at optimal levels. High performance–or generally speaking, wellbeing, is multidimensional.
So what are your core values? What are your deepest frights? What are your most restraint or sanctioning ideologies in terms of relationships? Have you worked on your anxieties? Do you have a non-fear-based vision on who you want to be with? Have you ever asked yourself, why do you keep attracting the same type of parties? And have you ever wondered what makes a relationship last-place? Which communication strategies do you exert to have a health relationship with your partner?
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